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Gottman Couples & Marriage Counseling in San Antonio and throughout Texas

Supporting, Understanding, Deeper Connection

 

Relationships can be hard to navigate.

  • Has the connection for friendship and communication eroded or become non existent?

  • Do you feel like you are gridlocked in the same perpetual arguments?

  • Do you feel lonely?

  • Do you long to be heard and understood by your partner?

  • Do you wish you could go back to the way things used to be when everything just moved smoothly?

When the flow of this sacred dance is disrupted, arguments escalate, understanding each other diminishes and all of a sudden we feel we have lost our best friend.

The undercurrent of this loss can stem from life events such as big changes in the relationship, addictions, infidelity, other family stressors to list a few.

When the relationship does not feel solid, this can bleed into other areas of your life. Your feelings of sadness or anxiety may increase inwardly, making you irritable or distracted when with friends, colleagues, work, or other activities. Or maybe other people are tired of hearing your anger and complaints about your partner. All of these reasons can affect your appetite, your sleep or your overall physical well being.

Are you ready to break these unharmonious dance moves and restore that connection of your sacred dance again?

Let Kimberlee Daughtry help you find a better path forward and teach you some new tools to foster connection.

This can take the form of learning how to communicate more effectively with your partner. When this happens you begin to feel understood and known by your partner again. New ways of discovering your partner’s inner world; his/her worries, stresses, aspirations, hopes and dreams can begin to help you feel heard and understood. Building in ways of sharing fondness and admiration can begin to help ward off criticism and contempt. Learning how to be vulnerable again and managing conflict can begin to create closeness. Last, finding ways to repair emotional wounds in the relationship can create closer intimacy. Working on these new patterns may seem clunky at first, but with structure, guidance, patience, and practice, Kimberlee will help you get there.

It is possible to find harmony and connection with your partner again.

 

OUR APPROACH TO WORKING WITH COUPLES

We love to work with couples! We treat the relationship as the whole client. We looks to see what patterns of pain you are stuck in.

You will begin your first session with an assessment process to help your therapist better understand you..

Your therapist will meet with you both to learn about the history of your relationship, (ie. How you met? What stood out to you about your partner? What things did you used to do together when your first met? What have been good times in your relationship? What changes have happened in the relationship and how have you adjusted? What are some of the current challenges in your relationship? )

Outside of session, your therapist will have each of you complete an online Gottman assessment that will show her areas of strength in your relationship and areas for growth.

In 2 separate sessions, your therapist will meet you each separately to get more information about you, as well as each person’s perspective on the relationship. The purpose of this meeting is not to keep secrets, but to allow for frankness without the concern of hurting the other person.

Last, in the third session, you will go through the assessment results examining areas of strength in your relationship, areas of growth and any other concerns both of you want to address in therapy. Your therpaist will work with you to construct a plan of goals for therapy. You will begin working on these things in a way that is constructive and healing. In concert to your assessment results, Your therapist will begin teaching you in more depth the 9 principles of Gottman ‘s Sound Relationship House. You will also begin to learn some new tools at the get go.

Kimberlee Daughtry ,certified Gottman therapist, offers Couples Intensives for those who want to get the process going a bit faster. Click here for more information.

Gottman Couple Therapy can help you…

  • Deepen your friendship

  • Identify common goals

  • Discover dreams and find ways for you to support each other’s dreams

  • Improve communication and understanding

  • Find better ways to manage conflict

  • Reconnect

  • Repair

  • Create deeper intimacy

  • Feel heard and understood

Testimonials

The Gottman method allowed our marriage to flourish through carefully studied and thought our practices.The insights we gathered from each other as a couple would have taken years to uncover. Dreams within conflicts allowed us to define and acknowledge tensions that arose in our relationship. We are now very aware and mindful of the four horsemen and we are more in tune with how we feel with each other and how respond when we get overwhelmed and flooded. Since employing these methods we have successfully been able to de-escalate conflicts before causing further harm. All the practices utilized during our sessions opened up doors to allow for open, honest communication and the love we have for each other to grow beyond our wildest dreams. JG&GG

We’re here to help your relationship grow deeper.

Why Gottman Method for Couples and Marriage Therapy?

Kimberlee Daughtry is a Certified Gottman Therapist. Stephanie Hataway is Gottman Trained. Gottman therapy has undergone almost 50 yrs of research and is well renowned for helping couples. This is the Cadillac way to do marriage and couple counseling! Click here to see the research behind the Gottman Method.

Dr John and Dr Julie Gottman created this science based couples therapy. Their work is based on 7 principles that have been proven to make relationships work. Your therpasit will guide you through each principle giving you tools to strengthen each individual piece. You will practice these tools in therapy and take them with you to build your couple toolbox. Click here to learn more about the Gottman Method.

Not only does she love this therapy professionally, but she and her husband use the tools to keep their marriage thriving.

Our therapists love working with couples and looks forward to meeting you.

Click HERE to see a video from Dr John Gottman explaining this method.

Click HERE to see the Kimberlee as an approved provider by the Gottman Referral Network.

FAQS

Common questions about Couple Therapy

  • Once you have gone through the assessment process and set up goals sessions will be 90 minutes, with a mixture of talking, feeling, examining relationship patterns and utilizing new skills, your therapist will coach you in ways to have different types of conversations that promote greater understanding, repair, compromise, and increased connection and deeper intimacy. You will leave each session with a new tool for your toolbox. Light homework will be given to strengthen your tools and your relationship. 

  • This is based on each couple’s needs. The duration of therapy will always be decided by you and your partner. Your therapist will give you clear and honest feedback about what to realistically expect based on your goals and personal histories. As with any topic, you can discuss length of therapy at any point during our time together.  

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  • Click link below to schedule your initial consultation today. During this call your therapist will answer any questions or concerns you may have. Once questions are answered and you’ve decided therapy is right for you, we will get started by scheduling our first session.

  • Kimberlee Daughtry Lopez, Certified Gottman Therapist, understands that couple therapy is a big step for your relationship, whether this is your first experience or you have done therapy before. You can be assured that with her 10 years of clinical experience, advanced training and a love for this work, she will guide you both in the process of growth and learning, both individually and together. If we are meeting regularly and you are not finding the process helpful, let Kimberlee know. You can discuss this in an open and productive way. Lastly, it is important to know that part of the effectiveness of therapy comes from the work being done outside of sessions in completing homework and applying new skills. If you put in the work, you will see the change.

  • Each 90 minute session is $280, Each 50 minute individual session is $150.

    Sliding scale can be offered when needed.

  • Yes, some insurance panels are accepted. The ones accepted are Aetna, United, Blue Cross Blue Shield, Cigna, Oscar